Gratitude: The Most Important Element To Making Your Own Magic




Sedona, AZ

In my last post, I shared a bit of my life from last year, about this time. Though it is a year old, I thought it went beautifully with the one before it. Since that April vacation in Florida, I have taken a leap of faith and manifested my own destiny; I made my own magic. It wasn’t so magical that it happened all by itself, oh no…I had to work for it. In this post, a share a timeline of the magic that has swirled around me in the last few years. But, I left out one major element: gratitude.

Why is gratitude the most important element in making your own magic? Isn’t gratitude just a feeling towards something or someone when something special happens to you they do something nice for you? Hard work, focus, and attention are surely more important than gratitude, right? 


Let’s say you are focusing on your dream every day, putting all your heart and intention into it. Doing the research, making the connections, doing your due diligence…working harder than you ever have at something. It’s exciting, exhilarating, magical…until something causes you to come down out of your high. You start to get disgruntled and sad and crabby and feeling like you want to just give up when you don’t see the results you were hoping for.

Maybe you feel you need a better computer, a better desk or a more glamorous office space like the ones you see on Pinterest, but you don’t have the money. Or, maybe you need more understanding from your family. Perhaps you keep seeing your peers fly by you in their endeavors and you wonder “why is life so unfair?!”

This is where gratitude comes in. It seems such a little and insignificant thing that holds no real bearing on making your dream come true, but, in reality, it’s one of the most important things. If you go through your life with no appreciation for all the good you already have, no more good will be able to find it’s way to you. If it does, it’s fleeting, because, if you show no gratitude for that, it will fly right out the window, too.

What I am trying to say is, when you put yourself on the vibration of feeling grateful, that vibration–that frequency–will draw the same things to you to give you what you are asking for: something to be grateful for. However, just remember that the opposite is true…what you give out comes back. So, if you are in the mindset and feeling of ‘lack’ then you will get more of that, as well.

Always investing in the belief that there is never enough, you’re losing ground, you can’t stay afloat, there’s just not enough money or time or resources, will give you a huge return on that investment. If you continue to provide a great amount of energy to that belief, then you won’t be let down. Of course, I am not suggesting that you stop paying attention to important things like your budget, bills, and responsibilities but, if you also take a little time each day to focus your energy on truly feeling grateful for what you already have, you will put yourself on the frequency of receiving all that you need…and, possibly more.

I am speaking 100% from experience. I have watched the change that being grateful has made in my own life and it has been remarkable. It can be so difficult to let go of control, even if it is just your way of thinking, but, I assure you, you won’t regret it. Start with making a list. No, not of everything you still need to do, pay for, work on…a list of everything you are grateful for in your life right now. Set aside a few moment to just be with yourself, or even with your spouse, partner, and/or kids, and really think of what you have. Write it down and feel true gratitude for it.

You should try to set a routine up for doing this each day. It doesn’t have to take forever; just a few moments each day will do. You don’t need another chore, after all. Here…you can get started by picking a few of these:

1. Every morning while you brush your teeth, fix your hair, make your bed or your coffee, etc., go over what you are grateful for in your head. Start out with two small things: good weather, waking up refreshed, a good hair day, and one big thing: the ability to see, your strong limbs to support you, a job, a home, a vehicle, someone who loves you or someone to love. 

2. As you make your way through your day, notice things around you: that kind person who waved you to go first at the stop sign, that sweet lady who held the door for you, your customer who was so appreciative of your help, the barista who gave you extra chocolate drizzle (isn’t that the best?)

3. Every evening at the dinner table with your family (or alone with your cat) discuss or think about all the great things that happened to you that day. It doesn’t have to take the whole meal, just go around the table and say what happened to you that day that made your heart really smile. If anything, it will make for very nice dinner conversation, don’t you think?

4. This is what I do the most: Every night when you shut off the bedside light and get comfortable, hold something that you can count on, I mean, literally count on. I use my small Mala, or Tibetan meditation/prayer beads. You can use your rosary, a few marbles, stones, or even your fingers! Use as many as you want, and count your blessings. I use mine as I do while chanting mantras, I roll one bead through my fingers and think of one thing per bead that I am grateful for. Sometimes, I fall asleep while doing this but, I think that’s the best way to fall asleep. I always have pleasant dreams. 

That’s it! Easy-peasy, right?

I really hope you try this. It will put you on a vibration that will surely help you overcome some of your fears and doubts and feelings of lack and “not enough.” Give it a try and come back to tell me how it went…I’d love to hear!


Also, if you go sign up for the newsletter, you will receive my free PDF gratitude sheets so you have a place to start jotting down those special things you are grateful for. You can look back on them throughout the day or week to always keep yourself on that “abundance high!”

If you are interested in something more permanent to keep track of your gratitude, try “The Five Minute Journal: A Happier You in 5 Minutes a Day.” It’s what I use–I even wrote a review of it (on my own–no affiliation needed–I just love it that much).

Thank you so much for reading!

I wish you all the wonderfulness you deserve,


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